I’ve had some changes in my friend hierarchy in the past week and it has left a void.  I spent the week kind of moping a little about the friendships that were disrupted.  Although this is a natural part of life—people come and go out in your life.  Sometimes people return, but most of the time people just drift away and you just have to remember the good times that you had with them.  So now that mourning period is over, I have time to reflect on it and write about it.

The way that I think of this to make it work for me is that we are not all pieces in a puzzle of life.  Nah, we’re more like legos.  We are interchangeable.  But we all connect some way or another to build something.  And then just like a five year old that is bored with their creation, we are flung apart and connected with new pieces.  Unless of course you’re one of the odd legos that can only connect from the bottom and can join together with no one else.  We all have THOSE people in our world and you know who I’m talking about right now.  But my point is we constantly in life being rebuilt with new legos and when the structure is done, it’s great.  Yet, most of the times it’s not going to last forever.  However, sometimes you’re lucky and you are part of something grand structure.  I mean something REALLY cool that is like Legoland quality.  Then, you should consider yourself blessed for the amazing opportunity.

In my life, I’m lucky enough to have a wonderful support unit of friends.  They are so many weird legos that I’ve collected in my life.  They are all different shapes and colors.  Some are Fox News Loving Republicans and others are tree hugging Democrats.  There are a bunch in between too.  But the main thing is that we connect.  If I lose a lego here and there, I’m sad about it, but it’s not going to be the end of the world.  There are so many other legos in my life that I can build.  I’m not going to rack my brain on the why someone doesn’t or can’t be friends with me.  I know I’m awesome and there are others who value my friendship and would enjoy the time we spend together.  I’m not bitter.  It’s just the fact of life… sometimes the legos are not in the right combination.

Just I don’t try to throw away relationships.  I just put them off to the side with the hope that one day, when the situation is right, we can build something great again.  A good friendship isn’t just about the good times; it’s also being there when things are bad.  Those friends that have stuck around for both with me… those are Legoland quality and know that I love and value what we have built.

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