Let’s talk about being an adult for a moment.  It sucks, I know.  There are many more responsibilities and emotions that are irrational because we were scorned earlier in life.  By the time we are an adult, we have so much emotional baggage we’re dragging with us that Southwest would even charge us to check it.  However much it sucks being the big boy, you have to suck it up and deal with it.

I ran into an experience this week that just proved how fragile people can be in their behavior.  I know I can come across as aggressive and to the point.  To be honest, it’s just a way to speed up the process of you trying to bullshit me and we can get to the real issue.  I don’t have the time or the emotional energy to invest in your excuses.  When it comes down to it, can you do what is asked of you or not?  If not, you suck. But it’s okay. We’ll work around it.  But to create unnecessary drama for everyone around you is bullshit.  Just because you can’t handle your shit you now have to drag everyone else into it.  I think it’s a crap out for not owning up to the fact that you’re emotionally incapable of dealing with the problems in your life.

What this experience has taught me is a.) I’m awesome because I can be an adult and be rational and b.) people just think you’re going to be politically correct because they can’t do their job.  Fuck that.  I have expectations that are set either by other people or by me.  When you can’t meet the expectations own up to it–don’t hide behind some false morals to try to tame me.  It’s not going to work.  In fact, it’s just going to piss me off even more.  If I’m disappointed in your actions, I’m not just going to try to be nice and say everything is okay.  I’m sorry, but that’s just not the way my world works.

Now, I’m coming off as ruthless.  It’s not that.  If someone owns up that they dropped the ball or there are external effects that are preventing them from doing their job, I will more than understand and probably offer my assistance if it would help.  I just don’t like when people place the blame on me when they get their job done on their own.

Part of my personality based on the enneagram is that I’m a three.  We don’t deal with drama.  Three’s don’t care.  If I had a poster for my work ethic it would say “Suck it up and get it done.”  I don’t bore people with my problems that I’m having.  I share them with my support unit and do the best job I can do.  But when I screw up (and yes it’s hard to believe that indeed I am not perfect), I own it and try my best to make it right.

My little rant is based on a shitty experience that I’m not going to share on my blog.  But it indeed has taught me a lot in dealing with irrational people.  I don’t have to deal with irrational people often.  That sounds hard to believe because I encounter so many people on a daily basis.  But I believe that most people have the ability to be rational if you are rational with them.  There are some that take more time than others, but in the end I think we can work together.  But irrational people usually have some unmet need that is prohibited them from thinking rational.  So my lesson for today is that if you are sounding irrational most of the time, deal with the issue in your life that is making you nuts.  Because until you do, you’re going to continue to be irrational and piss me off more.